May 22, 2011 3 to 4 in the morning
So mom and I had another argument. This time about her boyfriend, well her friend as she calls him. So not to go into so much detail, but she comes at me saying, he said, I cursed him out. I have a niece who was there sleeping with my mom… well let me just start at the beginning.
So I get off work at about midnight, and I’m home by about thirty minutes later. I sit up front watching tv, not realizing its been a couple of hours and its now 3 in the morning. My dog runs to the door, meaning someone is there and I go to look out and see my mom’s boyfriend, getting his truck ready to settle, already I’m annoyed like hell. I don’t like the guy and this just makes it worst, cause this is the main reason why I don’t like him. He comes over at all hours of the night. Whether my mom has to go to work or not and wakes her up, this day she didn’t have to go to work.
So I go in the room to change clothes and he calls the house, when I answer I tell him Jay is in the bed with mom. He comes in the house, he is all pissed for no reason. When he is leaving he tells me, “now remember what you told me and tell your mommy” I don’t answer and he taps my shoulder, I’m annoyed already and I tell him not to touch me, he goes out the door with “you don’t got to worry about talking to me either.”
Thirty minutes later he calls the house, I know its him, mom answers, she starts yelling his name cause he is telling her stuff then she yells mine cause she is pissed and blah blah blah. So she comes up from and comes at me asking why I cursed him out. I laugh, a wrong thing, but I didn’t know what else to do. No where in the few words I have ever talked to this son of a b---- have I ever even said the word hell to him.
So basically I’m gonna walk away cause I know if I stay I’ll get into a fight and I really don’t want to cause I don’t want a repeat of what happened fours years before. She won’t let me, so he get into a huge argument. She goes off about how I need to respect my elders, and how I’m a child under him and how he has done so much for me. I tell her I don’t like him and I won’t apologize because this idiot has the stupid thought process known to man, he thought when I told him my niece was in bed with mom, that I thought he would hurt her. That was the farthest thing from my mind, all I wanted him to know was that she was there so he could just rush to sit down and sit on her or something like that. He took it as hurt her like molest or something. I didn’t say it to my mom but I talked to a friend of mine about it, and the only reason I can see his mind coming to that conclusion is that he has done something to someone else or he has done something to my niece. Cause how he thought was not what I intended.
My mom says I don’t understand why he would feel that way cause I’m too young, I get how he feels that way but there has not been one day he has come over and if my niece is there I tell him, so what changed today?
I tell her he doesn’t respect her and he isn’t man, he comes all hours of the night and wakes her up knowing she has to go to work at 6 in the morning. Even when I tell him she is sleep he makes me wake her up, not really but if I don’t he’ll just keep calling back which wakes her up so either way she gets woken up. We talk about my dad, to be his is a sperm bank and a money bank, she tells me I shouldn’t think like that and that he is my father and I should take it back. I’m like yeah, no, and that’s all he will ever be to me. She goes on about how if he hadn’t been here I wouldn’t be here and that he is still my father and God tells me to respect my father and her and her boyfriend. I’m like no I won’t respect dad or your boyfriend I’ll only respect you. Then she goes on and on about God this and God that and how I’m going to hell or “go to hell” I can’t remember which one she said but either way I just laughed in my head.
Next she starts crying about how I hurt her and how she has never done anything to me, that I laugh at again and try walking away, she goes to her room and then comes back in full force wanting to know when she ever hurt me.
Ok, a child has NO privacy when they live with their parents. I agree with that in the up most even in my own situation. She asks me all the time if I’m having sex I say no, I don’t care if she asks, she’s my mom she can ask and when I do start having sex then I may tell her but knowing me I won’t cause I don’t care too and I know how to get condoms and birth control so I’m not really worried about all that. But I do get pissed off when she asked me, “kia are you having sex…. Cause… I just saw on tv this little girl flushed her baby down the toilet so her parents wouldn’t know.” It wasn’t that she asked about sex, it was that she said cause she saw something on tv, that’s why she was asking me. I may have taken it the wrong way but I’m one of those people that don’t do anything, meaning like I’m really good, but when you piss me off you piss me off and get out of my way cause if you don’t you are not gonna be standing afterwards. Another time she asked me if I took money out her purse. She didn’t accuse me but if you know me, I don’t go in my mom’s purse ever, I have a thing about it, I don’t even touch her purse hardly to move it out of the chair in the kitchen when she sits it down, I’ll just take another sit or if she is in the room then I’ll move it and she can see me. Another thing, you know when you are little, well younger, like teen years and you ask parents for money, then you lie saying you need more cause you spent the other money but you really didn’t. Well I did that a lot, not big deal she knew what I was doing and then I would get money from my day as well and she knew that too. So one day she asks me, “kia how did you get so much money, you better not be messing around with no sugadaddy or something.” This is my expression -_-, I basically walk out the house after that.
So all in all, those and other things have been making me annoyed with my mom. When I tell her she becomes condescending as usual and is like “I was only joking, that makes me not want to talk to you, I have to watch what I say cause you don’t know when I’m joking and when I’m being serious.” Who jokes about stuff like that, I don’t and not even to my closet friends do I joke about crap like that. So she starts crying about how could I think she would ever do that, and how I hurt her, turning it back onto her, I just stood there, wanting to punch her in the face and cry, but I said no, I’m going to not cry and just let you look like the stupid one for once, cause all she was doing was trying to make me feel bad and I wasn’t about to have it. So she is still crying and stuff and puts on her clothes and goes for a drive in her car, and I’m sitting there laughing like, really and you didn’t just hurt me again when you were being condescending and other bull. Thanks mom you know how to make a person fell better about a situation.
